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I've heard alot of people say "well, it is God's will for me" or "that's how God wants it" even when it is not God's will for them.
Simply because you met a road block ahead of you, doesn't mean what you what you were going for isn't God's will for you. Simply because you've failed a few times doesn't mean it isn't God's will for you.
You know what I think??
I think often times when we fail or meet a road block ahead, instead of resorting to "it's God's will for me", I think we should just think about what God wants. And I think God just wants us to try harder, put a little more effort and keep trying.
The thing is , we give up way too easily. We submit to our situations too easily and then we'll just sit there and be giving the "it's God's will for me" story.
Have you ever tried to figure out what His will for you actually is?
A lot of people miss out on God's will simply because they gave up. Let me put this another way: God gave you vision and you ran I to trouble, doesn't mean that that vision is not for you. It just means that you have to run extra to get to that vision.
In relation to God's will is instructions. A lot of people do not follow instructions. They feel they are well above instructions and just go about doing things the way they feel things should be done.
What is there in following instructions? What is so hard in you doing stuff as you're told to do it?
You need to understand something: God has a will for you, now for you to get to that will or rather for you to enjoy his will, He has laid out instructions which he expects you to follow and in following the instructions step by step, His will comes into fulfilment in your life. But when you don't follow his instructions, you either end up at a dead end or without his will being fulfilled.
God's will has a whole lot of packages in it, you just have to follow his instructions.

I've seen how alot of people just forget where they started or rather where they are coming from when they climb up the social ladder. It's pretty funny because it looks like they hit their head on something and lost their memory. But then it is painful to think that someone with such a background will forget their roots.
As you climb or go higher on the ladder of success, you should have your roots(that is where you came from) in mind and always be thankful for where you are now, where you were and where you are going to. You also should not change your characteristics.
How would you be successful and then you discard all those friends that were with you through thick and thin. You think that now you are on a higher level than those other people you left behind and it'll be embarrassing to be seen with you.
Look, your destiny is attached to the destiny of other people and so you ought to use your blessings to bless others and be of help to them.
We need to understand some things. We need to understand and know where our blessings come from and not get carried away in our blessings. We also need to understand that the only way to maintain that blessing(favor) is to stand rooted in where you came from.
With your blessings you will grow like a plant and climb over the walls but you have to understand that you gotta keep acting like where you came from. Your root is part of what defines you.
It is a good and beautiful thing to be rich and to finally conquer, be successful, be blessed but what do you gain when your root is lost? What is the point when you become another person entirely?

Persistency seems to a lot of people like too much work or rather such a heavy word that they don't think can actually be carried out.
Persistence is the act of persisting or perseverance, it is being resolute; continuous or repeating behavior. I love the part where it says repeating behavior.
You know what I've noticed, when people want material things, they are always persistent about it. When they are promised something, they always remind the person who promised them that stuff. They are persistent about it but you know what else I've noticed? When it is time for people to move or change position from point A to point B, they seem content, they don't persist. It looks to me like they are comfortable and content being at point A.
I need everyone to understand something and that is that "if there is anything in this life that gets you through point A to point B, it's the ability to be persistent over a long period of time".
Now, we need to understand something. Its not just about being persistent, you must be able to be persistent over a long period of time.
Moving from point A to B will take you through a lot of stuffs. You will pass through different challenges and a lot of ups and downs, not also forgetting the hurdles you have to cross too, but then your persistency through the situation no matter how long it takes is what will get you through.
Moving from point A to point B makes you a conqueror and every conqueror has complications but if you wait for the complications to leave, you can never be a conqueror.
Simply put, before you progress, and move from one position, you will go through complications and these complications is what makes you a conqueror but if you wait for this complications to leave or if you do not want to have complications then you can never be a conqueror.
I challenge you today to have a persistent spirit, the spirit of a conqueror and the will to persevere!!

The patient dog eats the fattest bone

This saying is not strange to many of us and has been said by many of us on numerous occasions.
Leo Tolstoy once said 'the most powerful warriors are patience and time'. Patience I'll say is the ability to wait or to continue doing something despite difficulties. One thing I've come to understand is that there is no patience without time. Some of us have been in a difficult situation whereby if we were not patient, things could have gone the other way round, but in the process of being 'patient', it seemed to you like it will take forever to get out of such a situation...but when the situation that looked liked forever ended, we were happy. The forever it seemed like it took back then is the *time* which works correspondingly with patience.
At one point in life, we will need to be patient. As defined above as the ability to either wait or continue doing somethings through difficulties, patience requires waiting, it requires being expectant, it requires being optimistic about what you stand to gain at the finish line. The road will definitely be rough, but don't be discouraged, don't blame yourself and don't blame others. The rough roads are what I refer to as the test of time, they are what I call the test of patience, they are what I call the test of endurance. The road could have possibly been smooth, but since nothing good comes easy, they are put there to see how much you will fair in the test of time, patience and endurance.
Have a positive mindset of 'I will get to the finish line, no matter what' before setting out, prepare your mind to face certain hurdles, believe in yourself that you can overcome the hurdles and then strategise how to overcome them.  Strive not to fail, rather strive to reach for the stars.
I leave you with the words of Harriet Tubman, who said 'Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world'.

Peace

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