FAVOURITISM

Many a time I seem to wonder why some parents tend to love one child more than the other. I get confused and ask myself ...'is this not the same woman that housed this dude in her womb for nine months?'... 'is this not the same man that was all jovial with this same kid when he was quite  young?'. I get confused and then inquire within myself...'are both of you not his or her parents?!'

One thing parents should know is that favouritism brings nothing but hatred among siblings, it builds the inferiority complex within a child and kills any kind of dream the child once had. Favouritism has led a couple of children to doing things they never thought of, it has made them believe that love does not exist anywhere. It has led many kids to believing that they can do nothing pleasing to the eyes, since anything they do will be questioned, no matter how good it is! And when the child starts to misbehave, the parents start to think that the child has joined a bad gang or something of such in school. This parents don't know that it's their actions or inactions that lead the children to this part of life. 

Parents should note that the actions of their children are partly born out of the actions and inactions of the parents. If this children feel welcomed and accepted in this bad gangs, then there is a high possibility that they would be found there and they would get involved with this acts.

Even if a child seems dull and all, picking a younger or older sibling over such a child will not solve the problem of being dull. It might just be a little 'push' such a child needs to gain his feet. But I have observed that such a child will be abused, molested and beaten by his parents, while his siblings will even mock him along the line, simply because they have seen their parents beat and abuse him. 

I understand that there is a possibility that you find it difficult to dispense the same amount of love to all your children, but as parents you should always find a way to carry this children along and show them all love. A child in such a situation will feel nothing but hatred for his family members and will feel like an outcast whenever he is in their midst. Such a child might one day decide to commit suicide because all that life (family members, classmates etc) has thrown at him has been unbearable. 

I implore parents, guardians and everyone to SAY NO TO FAVOURITISM....because it kills the potential as well as the self esteem within a child.

#saynotofavouritism

TOLURIYE '17